This is an amazing gratitude activity for kids! My 7th graders griped for a few minutes, but then totally got into it. Kids were sharing with each other their gratitude for their pets, sports, a warm house to live in, friends...they just surprised the heck out of me with their willingness to try it. Just goes to show, it's mostly about MY willingness to try it :) So perfect for the week before Thanksgiving! Thanks to my colleague Amy Sacquety for sharing this video and activity with our school! Let me know if you try it and how it goes...
Are we doing enough to celebrate our students' strengths and gifts? Gallup research says not nearly enough. I say, it's gotta start with celebrating our own strengths, and those of our colleagues. And I mean EVERY day. Please share some things that went well at your school today!
New Gallup Research: Only 31% of 5th-12th graders say they received praise at school in the last week. Check out the full article.
The science proves it...if you want great schools, build trust and rapport among teachers and staff. Read this inspiring Huffington Post article to learn more!
"...Enabling positive social relationships between the adults was the key to successful school improvement -- and that trust was at the heart of those relationships..."
Standards-based curriculum and pedagogy are the #1 priorities in our schools, but they are only part of what helps children grow up happy, whole, and successful. Who we are in our classrooms has an even greater impact on our kids. They watch our every move, and absorb everything we do and say (and don’t say). In grad school, one of my professors posted this quote on her door:
“You can‘t teach what you want to teach. You can’t teach what you’re supposed to teach. You can only teach who you are!”
To say it another way, a good friend of mine (and a fabulous dad!) told me this funny story about his 4-year-old son. Recently they pulled up to a McDonald’s drive thru, and his son ordered an ice cream cone. When the clerk said, “Sorry, we’re all out today,” the 4 year old blurted out “Well, sh-t!” No one taught him to say that, but he learned it anyway. Psychologists call this Observational Learning.
Observational Learning refers to all the stuff we learn by watching others. Children learn not just through what we teach them, but also by observing how we act, what we say, and how we handle life (the good and the bad.) My friend’s example is funny, and obviously benign, but as teachers, I think it’s worth asking the question, “What are my students really learning from me today?”
By courageously being ourselves, with our unique gifts and talents, we help kids thrive.In our best moments, kids learn from us how to contribute in a positive way, how to be real and authentic, and how to make a difference in someone’s life. In our weaker moments they learn humility, resilience, and self-compassion. In us, they see a life they’d like to emulate.
In his inspiring video clip, From Effectiveness to Faithfulness (watch below), Parker Palmer describes the power of being faithful to the gifts we possess and our ability to use these gifts to make a difference in the lives of kids. Being faithful to our gifts is more than enough to make a positive impact in our classrooms.
From Effectiveness to Faithfulness from Center for Courage & Renewal on Vimeo.
So how do we actually grow and strengthen our ability to be ourselves? A good place to start is a simple exercise called “What Went Well.” I have modified it for teachers. I often start off my school’s weekly staff meetings with a few minutes of What Went Well. And my wife and I love practicing it together at the end of a long day. Here’s how it works.
Drop me a line, I’d love to hear how it’s going.
This blog was originally published on Courage and Renewal.
We all get grumpy...and there's nothing we can do about it. It's just part of life. So, when we're feeling surly and irritable, how do we successfully teach our classes, talk with our spouses, or run a meeting? And how do we help grumpy students?
There's no easy answer, of course, but I think it's worth asking the question. I know for sure it's not about sweeping it under the rug, or covering it up with stuff that feels good! There's a certain degree of acceptance required here, and there are many helpful tools to help us move through, rather than away from how we feel.
This article from the Huffington Post gives a eye-opening overview of "6 negative emotions worth embracing," and how doing so can actually increase our health and well-being.
Again, it's not about denying our grumpiness. However, focusing on things that we're grateful for can be a huge help. Here are 9 ways to cultivate gratitude + some cool apps to help you get going!
No one likes feeling grumpy, but embracing how we feel leads to a more durable and fulfilling teaching life. In doing so, we also develop an important set of skills for helping our students manage their own inevitable ups and downs.
What works for you? Leave a comment here!